If I were to ask if you are a complainer, would you admit to it? Let me be the first to say that I am completely guilty of always complaining about life… ALWAYS!
It’s nothing for me to zone in on the annoyances and stress of life, announcing them to anyone who cares to listen. I complain about my body, my hair, my bank account, my co-workers, my college courses, where I live, being an adult with responsibilities, being single, the weather, insects, Dunkin Donuts never making my coffee right… the list can go on for pages!
Complaining is the new form of conversation. It is so normal to complain that we don’t even realize that we are complaining. Think about it, when someone asks how you are doing, what is your response? For me, I always answer, “I’m so tired” or “Girl, I just want a coffee to get me through this crazy day!” I have even had full conversations with people that consisted of us comparing just how miserable we think our lives are… just call it The Battle of the Ungrateful.
It’s so unfortunate that we get so caught up in the comfort of wallowing in negativity and playing the role of victim through complaining that we get blinded from the truth: WE ARE BLESSED! I think about the normalcy of complaining and thinking negatively and Shug Avery from The Color Purple comes to mind when she said to Celie:
“I think it pisses God off if you walk by the color purple in a field somewhere and don’t notice it”- Alice Walker
It is so easy for us as humans to look past the beauty, magic, and God-given blessings of life and focus on the very things that are meant to block our view of positivity. We tend to be so distracted by the darkness that we can’t see the light, even though the scripture says:
“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it” John 1:5
It is time for us to look beyond the darkness and let the light be our focal point. It is time to diminish the annoyances and stress that we make so important in our lives. Let’s have a new perspective… let’s start COUNTING OUR BLESSINGS! Stop complaining about co-workers and be glad to be employed. Stop complaining about the weather and be grateful that God blessed us with another day of life. Stop complaining about where you live and be happy that you have a place to rest and eat. Stop complaining about being single and thank God that you are not settling for any man or woman just because you are lonely. Start noticing the miracles all around you… pay attention to the color purple in the field as you pass it by! COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!
What blessings are dominating your life right now? Write them down or think about them and know that you are significant and amazing… you are a miracle!